I read the quote to my wife and she and I had a good laugh, but also concern about any who might accept it as gospel.

I acted the role of the doormat during the early years of my marriage. Thought I was doing what God wanted based on all the indoctrination I had received. Following all of that legalism and yes, husband idolatry, led to terrible fruit in my life. Looking back, I don't know how I didn't see that it was idolatry. I had been counseled to have a Genesis 3:16 type of marriage. Rather than my joy coming from the Lord, I became obsessed with trying to please my husband and to get my joy from him.

Debbie Pearl's book and others like it (along with so many sermons) make me     They are so destructive.

Not only that, it will make any unbeliever see it and decide "Christianity is not for me."
Not only that, but it may also cause them to blaspheme God, which I can see coming.

On another blog, someone essentially said  ' Just because it says 'written by Christian' doesn't mean that what's inside that book is Biblical. 

Amen to that. We need to remember to weigh everything against Scripture, even when it comes with the "Official" stamp.

Is this a command? I thought it was a prophecy of how things would be after the fall. It's a pretty big stretch to say that the results of sin are God's will.

Oh, really? That's a "command"?

And as for it being "The very first command God gave to a woman":

What about "Be fruitful and multiply and have dominion, etc." two chapters earlier?

Or when God (also earlier) told them not to eat of the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden?

It is not a command.  God is not talking to the man to tell him to rule over the woman.  God is talking to the woman telling her what she will be doing (not that she must do it) and warning her what the response from her husband is going to be.

You know how they say, "If the only tool you have is a hammer, every problem looks like a nail"?

Well, if you are caught in and held firmly by and hold firmly to the masculinist/patriarchal paradigm and regard that as the overriding way to understand women vis-a-vis men in the Scriptures, then that's the lens through which you view and read and understand the Scriptures. Every "word" to a woman in relation to a man is viewed as a "command" for the woman to obey or a "role" for her to fill in subservience to or in support of the man.

quite true.